It's time to go job hunting, isn't it?
As my late mother would often complain to us - "The king himself is not anxious, yet his eunuch is more anxious than he is." ......Wong dai mm kap, tai karm kap...., I now fully understand what that means!
Phoenix has finally finished his college education. And thus, it is time to look for a job. But is he in a hurry to be financially independent (at least, off his parents' payroll)? It doesn't look that way at the moment. Sigh!
As a good and concerned mother, I gave him lots of tips on how to write an impressive CV. I believe I flipped through the classified section of the papers these last few weeks far more than I ever did when I was looking for a job for myself years ago. You don't want to know what other things I did to clear the path that he may find the road to getting that first interview a lot easier. Sigh....maybe I had done too much. Should I just leave him alone to find his footing in this brand new world of adulthood??
I wonder if he is fully aware of the stiff competition out there to get hold of a piece of the employment market? I was at the JobStreet Career and Training Fair yesterday afternoon and the entire exhibition hall was filled with youngsters, all like eager beavers, sniffing out for the best position suitable for them. At my insistence, Phoenix had gone over for a look-see a day before (which was the first day of a three day event) and he came back, not too impressed with whatever he saw there. I REALLY don't know exactly what he is looking for. Maybe he has his own plans. I don't know.
Papa Bkworm thinks I should just leave him alone and let him find his 'way' around. He should be old enough to take responsibility for his own life from now on.
Maybe I am just too anxious......wanting the best for him. Wouldn't you do the same for your kids?
4 thots:
i agree with papa bkworm.. let him find his way... meanwhile, do not let money be so readily available to him. Just let him know that you are there to help if he needs tips on job search and interviews and such. But don't do the work for him. Being a "man", he has to build his character, to succeed in life, and you know, care for his family. Must have that "backbone" guat hei (is that what it is in Cantonese?)
My bro is a total bum, 31 with 2 kids, totally dependent on my mum. But she allows him.
As a mum.. i think i would be this way too.. but i too would consciously try and not meddle too much.. unless of course.. chloe becomes a good for nothing bum.. kekkekee!!
Just let him do what he wants. he needs the passion to sustain him in the working world. But of course you can help him get a foot thru the door for some interviews or with his cv or helping him scan the classifieds. BUT only if he wants your help.
Us poor mums. always anxious to help. But our help not always wanted!!
I used to think I was the only one mounting pressure on myself until recently mom and dad decided to hang a family portrait on top of my bed's headboard (is this what you call it?). Anyway with or without family pressure, I'm very anxious to rise fast and earn my first millions... But having been slaving for about a year now, I realized it's harder than it seems. I'm still the most junior in my department even after 1 year... It's terrible. Nobody else is younger than me here,... and my superiors still treat me like a new staff. I hate that!
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